Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Yet another Blog about Todd Akin

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Ok, I have to weigh in on this Todd Akin thing…

Here is the quote from Representative Akin that has him in so much trouble:
“It seems to me, from what I understand from doctors, [pregnancies from rape are] really rare. If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down. But let’s assume that maybe that didn’t work or something: I think there should be some punishment, but the punishment ought to be of the rapist, and not attacking the child.”
Now, if I was teaching a Victim’s Impact class or Criminal Thinking class in a prison and Representative Akin was instead Inmate Akin and he made that statement, I would consider (and probably would) kick him out of class and make him reapply.  I certainly wouldn’t allow him to receive treatment credit.

His statement was part “Freudian-slip” and part convenient “science”.

Let’s go with the “science” part.  No one believes that the trauma of rape is any type of “barrier” to protect a woman from pregnancy. Here are the statistics:
“Statistically, the chance of getting pregnant from a one-off rape that involved penis-to-vagina penetration and male orgasm (of course not all rapes do) is about 5%, the same as for consenting sex under the same circumstances.” RAINN: The nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization.

”There were around 25 000 pregnancies occurring from rape each year in the US, say studies done in 1998 and 2000. Of those, about 9000 were aborted.” According to the Kaiser Family Foundation Research

This idea that a woman’s body will “fight-off” the sperm of a rapist is preposterous and no-one (and when I say no one, I mean no one reputable, or even otherwise) adheres to it.  It was quoted by Representative Akins because it suited him and his position on abortions for rape victims.

However, for me, the most condemning statement came from the “legitimate” comment. He has tried to backtrack today, but he said what he said.  He believes that not all reported rapes are rapes. That is actually true. A small portion of claims are fabrications, just like the reports of any type of crime, some are false accusations.

However: I don’t think that is what Mr. Akins meant by it. In the interview he threw off some very suspect body language as he made his statement. Maybe he knew he didn’t know what he was talking about. Whatever the case, he needs some “inner work” in his heart as it comes to rape victims.  He needs empathy, which he did not show.

Jesus is very clear in Luke 6:45, “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.

If Mr. Akins would have said something like, “Rape is a horrible act and the perpetrators of such an evil crime should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law, not ruling out the death penalty or life in prison. The victims of such crimes should be defended protected and supported by our communities and government in their greatest time of need and the people who are conceived as a result of a rape have rights. The manner and circumstances of their conception do not negate their right to life. ” I could have respected him. He would have at least been consistent in his statements.  Instead, he has become one of the most reviled figures in politics and in the nation…and rightfully so.

I know people who were conceived as a result of incest (which, is rape.) I came to love them deeply in my heart. I was so sad for their circumstances, but I was glad they were alive and that I was able to contribute to their happiness and experience.

I’ll be honest, I‘m torn on this issue.

Mr. Akins is not.

chris

Monday, August 20, 2012

One Year Ago Today...

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I started this blog one year ago today.

I was to have written 365 blog entries by now, but alas it has only been 326 entries.

I've gotten bogged down over the summer, but really, I have been avoiding writing about my work in the prison...which, really, this has been all about anyway.  I have not wanted to remember the hurt from Newton, Iowa...so I have avoided writing...refused to write, really.

And, I've not gotten to the Dr. to get my physical...

And I haven'r been working out...

And I've only lost 13 lbs for the year...

There.

What will I do? I'm unsure.

chris

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

The Birth of Christian

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In 1998 we had three very unique boys and we had gone through a family loss. Amy was pregnant earlier in the year, but lost the baby after a minor car accident.

It was without question that we would have another child.

We were making other life-changes as well. I was going to leave The King’s Daughters’ School after 11 years. I was going to be on staff at New Life Church , and I was going to get a job with the local school system.

We were also having multiple meetings at Church preparing for the “end of the world” the dreaded Y2K.

In the midst of that, Christian was conceived.

I was surprised at the amount of anxiety I had early on in Amy’s pregnancy. She was having some pregnancy related conditions and was uncomfortable through the hot Tennessee summer. On August 7th, 1999; he came.

We had friends who had “home births,” some without incident, some with incident. We were not so brave.

We had friends (who were Catholic, and had multiple Children) who had a pool in their bedroom so they could have a home water birth.

Again…not so brave.

The “Water-Mom” was also training to be a birth attendant or “Doula.” So she was going to be in the room with us as Amy delivered.

Christian decided to come on a Saturday. Our experience with Eric and Wesley was that they came very quickly. So we “paged” (remember those?) Water-Mom and headed to the hospital. Water-Mom, being a good Catholic, was at Mass and we didn’t have a cell phone. So we left the message and got down to business.

Things progressed at a more typical rate than his brothers. She was dilating but not yet ready to push. The contractions were getting more intense.

Suddenly the birthing room door busted open and in barge Water Mom to the rescue.

WATERMOM: I’m sorry, I’m sorry. I was at Mass and I didn’t pay attention to my pager.

ME: No problem, we’re just here suffering. And when I say “we” I mean “her.”

WATERMOM: How far is she dilated? How far are the contractions apart? What is your pain level?

ME: I have a slight headache…

WATERMOM: Not You!

Water Mom then pulled out her Hippie Satchel and began dumping, what appeared to me, instruments more suited for Gitmo, but were really different massage implements.

Ultimately, Amy then pushed a few times and out came Christian.

He nursed right away and was a pretty good sleeper.

I remember holding him a lot because I knew he was going to be the last baby for awhile (until the grandbabies.)

He survived Y2K and the new move to Iowa and a thousand other perils…

Even Water Mom.




chris

Monday, August 6, 2012

POWER! (scraper...)

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A lot of what I do with houses is undo what others have done before me; like stripping a floor or tearing out a wall.

Today I used a "power scraper." Yes, it is as awesome as it sounds.

It is pushed like a lawnmower.  It is super heavy and it has a very sharp blade that sits against the surface and whatever you are wanting to scrape off a floor.  In our case, vinyl tile glued to a concrete floor.  The machine vibrates that blade side to side and it obliterates everything in its path.

Where there was no adhesive, it goes through like butter.  Where there was a lot of adhesive, it takes longer/

No life lesson. Just a cool power tool.

chris

Friday, August 3, 2012

Eric Goes For a Lasik Exam

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Eric is at Silverstein Eye Center getting an exam to see if he is a candidate for Lasik surgery.  As a performer (particularly a dancer) it would be super convenient for him not to wear glasses or contacts.  So there he is...

The lens of the eye focuses light to the back of the eye where sensors send information to the brain which the brain interprets as an image.  The lens is tiny, and if the lens has imperfections or is warped in any way it distorts the image coming into the brain.  Things will appear blurry or distorted.  Of course the object being looked at is what it is, but the imperfect lens tricks the brain into seeing a distorted image.

I need to wear glasses at night to drive.  I cannot distinguish the position of a stop light from one block to the next.  I have run a red light because I was looking at the next block's green light and could not distinguish between the two. I had no depth perception.  I had a warped perspective.

I had gone several years without glasses and my vision had deteriorated over time.  I went to the optometrist and took the exam.  The optometrist made an insightful comment to me after the exam:

EYE DOCTOR: Oh, I see the problem.

ME (Hoping for some great insight): Yes,

EYE DOCTOR: You can't see.

ME: Uhhhh, may I review your medical certificate again...

So I got glasses.  I was amazed. I could see details like the leaves on trees and I could see all the way down the street, as if it was in 3D (because, as Wesley pointed out, everything IS in 3D.)

Lasik surgery reshapes the tiny imperfections in the eye's lens with an even tinier laser.  Those tiny adjustments result in seeing things accurately.

Fill in your own life lesson here: _______________________________________________________

chris

For more information about Silverstein Eye Center and Lasik Surgery: Silverstein Eye Centers/Lasik

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Ok, last one for now...

Interesting list of quotes from our president over the years...


Politico is a conservative outlet, but you say what you say...


Evolve: Obama gay marriage quotes

Barack Obama is pictured. | AP Photo

President Barack Obama on Wednesday announced his support for gay marriage, addressing the issue for the first time personally since Vice President Joe Biden said on Sunday that he is “absolutely comfortable” with same-sex marriage and Education Secretary Arne Duncan announced his support of gay marriage on Monday. Here’s a look back at some of Obama’s quotes on gay marriage:
1. “I favor legalizing same-sex marriages, and would fight efforts to prohibit such marriages,” while running in 1996 for Illinois state Senate, in a written response to a questionnaire from Chicago’s Outlines gay newspaper.

2, 2004, while an Illinois state Senator, in an interview with Chicago gay newspaper, the Windy City Times.2. “Undecided,” while running for re-election to state Senate in 1998, in response to an Outlines questionnaire asking, “Do you favor legalizing same-sex marriage?” 
3. “I am a fierce supporter of domestic-partnership and civil-union laws. I am not a supporter of gay marriage as it has been thrown about, primarily just as a strategic issue. I think that marriage, in the minds of a lot of voters, has a religious connotation. I know that’s true in the African-American community, for example. And if you asked people, ‘should gay and lesbian people have the same rights to transfer property, and visit hospitals, and et cetera,’ they would say, ‘absolutely.’ And then if you talk about, ‘should they get married?’, then suddenly…” - Feb. 
4. “I was reminded that it is my obligation not only as an elected official in a pluralistic society, but also as a Christian, to remain open to the possibility that my unwillingness to support gay marriage is misguided,” while a U.S. Senator, writing in his memoir in 2006, “The Audacity of Hope.”
5. “The government has to treat all citizens equally. I am a strong supporter not of a weak version of civil unions, but of a strong version, in which the rights that are conferred at the federal level to persons who are part of the same-sex union are compatible. When it comes to federal rights, the over 1,100 rights that right now are not being given to same-sex couples, I think that’s unacceptable.” - Aug. 9, 2007, while running for president, at a Democratic primary debate sponsored by the HRC and the LOGO network.
6. “I believe that marriage is the union between a man and a woman. Now, for me as a Christian — for me — for me as a Christian, it is also a sacred union. God’s in the mix.” - April 17, 2008, while running for president, defining marriage at the Saddleback Presidential Forum.

7. “I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. I am not in favor of gay marriage. But when you start playing around with constitutions, just to prohibit somebody who cares about another person, it just seems to me that’s not what America’s about.” - Nov. 2, 2008, while running for president, in an interview with MTV.


8. “I’ve called on Congress to repeal the so-called Defense of Marriage Act to help end discrimination to help end discrimination against same-sex couples in this country. Now, I want to add we have a duty to uphold existing law, but I believe we must do so in a way that does not exacerbate old divides. And fulfilling this duty in upholding the law in no way lessens my commitment to reversing this law. I’ve made that clear.” - June 29, 2009, as president, at an LGBT Pride Month reception.

9. “I have been to this point unwilling to sign on to same-sex marriage primarily because of my understandings of the traditional definitions of marriage. But I also think you’re right that attitudes evolve, including mine.” - Oct. 27, 2010, as president, in an interview with a group of liberal bloggers.

10. “Every single American — gay, straight, lesbian, bisexual, transgender — every single American deserves to be treated equally in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of our society. It’s a pretty simple proposition.” - Oct. 1, 2011, as president, speaking at the Human Rights Campaign annual national dinner.

11. “I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same-sex couples should be able to get married.” - May 9, 2012, as president, in an interview with Robin Roberts of ABC News.


Read more: http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0512/76109_Page2.html#ixzz22PbwyPLc

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

What the Chick-fil-A boss really said. (a re-post)


FRIDAY, JULY 20, 2012
Posted by tmatt
So, did you hear about that wild quote that the president of Chick-fil-A didn’t say the other day?
Here’s a piece of a CNN report that is typical of the mainstream press coverage of this latest cyber-skirmish in America’s battles over homosexuality, commerce and free speech (sort of).

(CNN) — The fact that Chick-fil-A is a company that espouses Christian values is no secret. The fact that its 1,600 fast-food chicken restaurants across the country are closed on Sundays has long been testament to that. But the comments of company President Dan Cathy about gay marriage to Baptist Press on Monday have ignited a social media wildfire.
“Guilty as charged,”, Cathy said when asked about his company’s support of the traditional family unit as opposed to gay marriage.
“We are very much supportive of the family — the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that,” Cathy is quoted as saying.

Now, one would assume — after reading a reference to the “comments of company President Dan Cathy about gay marriage” — that this interview from the Biblical Recorder in North Carolina (which was circulated by Baptist Press) actually included direct quotes from Cathy in which he talks about, well, gay marriage.
In this case, one cannot assume that.
While the story contains tons of material defending traditional Christian teachings on sexuality, the controversial entrepreneur never talks about gay rights or gay marriage. Why? Because he wasn’t asked about those issues in the interview.
This raises an interesting journalistic question: Is a defense of one doctrine automatically the same thing as an on-the-record attack on the opposite doctrine? In this case, is it accurate for CNN (and others) to say that Cathy made comments about gay marriage when, in fact, he did not speak words addressing that issue?
But wait, readers might say, everyone KNOWS what he was talking about! And, once his actual comments were quoted, kind of, in the mainstream press, it was then possible to quote many people who offered their angry reactions to his actual words because of their interpretation of them.
This is certainly true. It would have been easy to have quoted several of the tsunami of tweets, blog comments and other commentaries blasting Cathy for his defense of basic Christian doctrines. You know, those quotes that sound like this, drawing from the actual interview:

“We don’t claim to be a Christian business,” Cathy told the Biblical Recorder in a recent visit to North Carolina. He attended a business leadership conference many years ago where he heard Christian businessman Fred Roach say, “There is no such thing as a Christian business.”
“That got my attention,” Cathy said. Roach went on to say, “Christ never died for a corporation. He died for you and me.”
“In that spirit … [Christianity] is about a personal relationship. Companies are not lost or saved, but certainly individuals are,” Cathy added. “But as an organization we can operate on biblical principles. So that is what we claim to be. [We are] based on biblical principles, asking God and pleading with God to give us wisdom on decisions we make about people and the programs and partnerships we have. And He has blessed us.”

And the marriage thing?

The company invests in Christian growth and ministry through its WinShape Foundation (WinShape.com). The name comes from the idea of shaping people to be winners. It began as a college scholarship and expanded to a foster care program, an international ministry, and a conference and retreat center modeled after the Billy Graham Training Center at the Cove.
“That morphed into a marriage program in conjunction with national marriage ministries,” Cathy added.
Some have opposed the company’s support of the traditional family. “Well, guilty as charged,” said Cathy when asked about the company’s position. “We are very much supportive of the family — the biblical definition of the family unit. …
“We are very much committed to that,” Cathy emphasized. “We intend to stay the course,” he said. “We know that it might not be popular with everyone, but thank the Lord, we live in a country where we can share our values and operate on biblical principles.”

So there is the context. It certainly would be easy for journalists to talk to the company’s critics and, thus, to establish a gay-rights context for this discussion, if that is the goal. But that isn’t my point, of course. That isn’t what CNN, and others, did in their reports. They reported that Cathy made comments, that he spoke words directly addressing gay-rights issues, that he delivered a series of negative, anti-gay remarks. In effect, Cathy is being quoted saying words that he said, as well as words that he did not say.
Thus, the author of the original Biblical Recorder story, K. Allan Blume, has since noted:

During a call-in radio interview Thursday (July 19) with WORD-FM in Pittsburgh, K. Allan Blume described his conversation with Chick-fil-A’s Dan Cathy as “very positive,” unlike how it is being portrayed in a variety of news reports. …
Many of those reports “turned [the original story] into a negative,” said Blume, adding the term “anti-gay” never came up in the June interview while Cathy was speaking in the Raleigh, N.C., area.
“He was not saying ‘guilty as charged anti-gay,’” Blume added. “[Cathy] never even brought up that subject. Everything he stated was on the positive side … He never stated anything negative.”

Picky, picky? Well, yes. It would have been so easy for the mainstream press to have reported Cathy’s remarks accurately and, then, to have accurately reported the comments of those who were more than happy to criticize the Chick-fil-A leader’s conservative views on marriage.
That equation is par for the journalistic course. But is it fair game to actually state, as fact, that the man said things that he didn’t say?
“we’re inviting God’s judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at him and say we know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage. And I pray God’s mercy on our generation that has such a prideful, arrogant attitude that thinks we have the audacity to redefine what marriage is all about.” Dan Cathy


Dan Cathy Interview

Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day Brings Out Supporters